Your text messages should focus on 2 main goals:

 catching her interest, and keeping it.  

Each text message you send serves a purpose.

Prior to sending your text, ask yourself:

  • Do you want to plan a date?
  • Make her feel loved / appreciated?
  • Maybe get her in the mood?
  • Let her know you are thinking of her?

Read on for 5 common texting mistakes men make when dating, and learn how you can avoid them.

 1.     Being as predictable as death and taxes

 Are you a “7:30am rushing off to work” kind of texter? If so, change it up, and text her at lunch time instead.  Find a moment during the day when you feel relaxed, and have the time and energy to craft a creative message that showcases your unique personality with the intent to make her smile. For example, instead of texting: “Have a great day. Kisses” Text instead:  “Already missing your warm body next to mine…” As a bonus, when you change up your timing, you create anticipation and leave her eagerly eyeing her phone, waiting for your next message.

 2.     Over-texting

 Texting is a 1:1 game. If you look at your message outbox and notice that it’s just one sided, put your phone down and stop. Do something else to take your mind off the person you’re dying to text.   For example, go for a run, play with your dog, hit the beach…even call your buddies to go bowling.  Just stop texting the girl if its all one sided.

 3.     Texts that leave her guessing 

 Texts are meant to be short, but not a random mismatched phrase. I recently received this strange text message “Hey Claudia, How are you doing? I was dreaming last night. Regards”. The tone of this message drifts between flirtatious  (assuming he’s dreaming of me) and friendly. Don’t be wishy-washy, either go for flirtatious, and text her something like: “Spent the night dreaming about your soft skin and sweet lips” or, go for friendly, and text : “Hey Blondie, how’s life in the land of the cute girls?”. Whatever you do, never, ever sign off a romantic text message with “regards”.

 4.     Too sexy, too soon

 There are a lot of women out there that like it hot and spicy, just look at the success of the International best seller 50 Shades Of Grey.  However, when sending “adult” style text messages, respect the timing of your relationship.  If you have not yet been intimate with your partner, then don’t text anything graphic about her “female parts” or your “best friend”. Instead, tease her with messages such as: “You have a sultry secret, and I want to discover it…” or: “This kind of chemistry happens only rarely.  Can you feel it too…?”

5.     Forget about the roller-coaster ride

 Many guys have their own tried and true personal texting style.  In fact you might be one of these guys. For example, do you always send sweet, funny or sexy messages? While all these style of messages are wonderful at the right time and dose, when texting to create desire, it’s better to mix them:

Message 1:  Start with a sincere compliment: “Beautiful, funny, and you like spicy food…I think I’m in love”

Message 2: Tease your partner with: “I had a great time last night, I can’ t wait to ….”

Message 3:  Finish off your text conversation with a question that keeps her engaged, and includes a personal tidbit she shared with you, such as being a wine lover. For example: “Hey Miss Malbec, I’m buying some wine for tonight. Any suggestions?” Doing this also proves you’re a good listener, and genuinely interested in her.

Texting is fun, and it gets results. By avoiding these 5 common texting mistakes men make when dating,  you’ll be ahead of the competition, and close to obtaining your goal – her.