Ladies ask yourself this: When is the last time you really chose who to date? Your last partner; did you choose them or did you simply fight for their approval and wait for them to choose you?
We are faced with choices every day. The car we drive, the clothes we wear, what we eat (self-control permitting!). Should you not take rights to an equal choice in whom you date?
When romance is concerned, some ladies throw this perfectly good choosing process out the window in lieu of a burning need to be wanted and desired. There is nothing wrong with wanting to be desired; everyone wants it. BUT is the need to be desired taking away your ability to make real choices about who you date?
We see this happen too often and too easily around the first few dates. Youre busy trying to figure out if this man likes you, or what he is thinking. When we fixate ourselves on these questions some more important ones fall by the wayside: Do I like them? Are they a good fit? More importantly Do they have the qualities and values that I am looking for?
Our choices become unimportant, even non-existent. Too much time is spent attempting the impossible trying to read someone elses mind!
What can I do?
Before you continue in a relationship habitually, ask yourself:
* What are they bringing/ going to bring into my life?
* Do I actually like this person?
* Do we share the same goals? and importantly
* Do they have the values that I am looking for in a partner?
2. Keep your choices! You make your decisions and let them make theirs. Your choices are your power, dont lose them.
3. Always put your best foot forward and dont get hung up on what they are thinking. Allowing your mind to be dominated with what they think reduces your ability to make a choice if they are right for you.
When its all said and done if the chemistry isn’t there – youll choose not to date them or theyll choose not to date you. Whatever it ends up to be, youll be able to smile and take solace in the fact that neither of you tried to fill a square hole with a round shape.
Karina is a dating and romance consultant and the founder of Datelicious. She gets to share what she knows about love, and the best way to find it, every day. Fifteen years’ experience in the dating industry means that she has a wealth of trade secrets that she is only too willing to share with people who are on the dating rollercoaster or are building a relationship. She has a sixth sense when it comes to romance. Karina is well known for discovering hidden restaurants and bars which she adds to her impressive arsenal of dating & romantic venues. An avid traveller, you can often find her at the airport ready to indulge in her love of travel and taking every opportunity to uncover the best holiday spots for couples and singles, both on and off the map.