You may have the happiest relationship in the world, but in any partnership there can be little niggles that grow into deep-rooted fears. Most of the time, people will find that they’re worrying about things that never eventuate. If you’re one of these people, it’s time to take control of these worries before they cause irreparable damage. Here are five common fears that are normally unfounded, but could cause problems.
1. He Could Do So Much Better
If you’re thinking that he could do better than you, it’s time to give your self-esteem a boost. At the simplest of levels – If he didn’t want to be with you, he wouldn’t be with you. Everyone has a choice to stay or go in a relationship. At times we can all lack a little doubt, however don’t let self-doubt be the destroyer of something great.
2. I Could Do So Much Better
In which case, why are you with him? Stop and think about whether you can see a future in this relationship, or whether it’s just misguided thinking and a belief that the grass is greener on the other side. There’s no point in spending time in a relationship that you’re not happy with and also not fair to your partner.
3. I Think He’s Seeing Someone Else
Is he really working late in the evenings? Does he really have a business trip to go on? Even if he’s never given you any reason to think he’s cheating, you might have a deep-seated mistrust of men that makes you believe he is. Don’t think about past relationships – focus on how good things are in the present. Trust until someone gives you a reason not to trust them!
4. He Wants To End Things
He might choose to spend time with friends instead of with you at the weekend, and you’ll jump to the conclusion that he’s building up to leave you. This might end up being the case if you are either pushing him away or getting too clingy – both of which are sure to lead to problems.
5. We Can’t Get Too Close
If you’re the vulnerable type, you may see getting close too quickly as a bad thing. After all, what happens if you invest all your time and emotion into the relationship and it goes nowhere? Holding your partner at arm’s length prevents a relationship gaining depth. Just enjoy what you have, be open and see where it goes.
The ‘What If’s and jumping to conclusions can be the death of a relationship. If you find yourself pondering on any of the above, speak to a trusted friend and get them to offer up their opinion.!