You’re not single because there aren’t good people out there.
You’re single because you don’t actually know what “good enough” looks like.
And that confusion?
It’s ruining your dating life.
Right now you’re doing one of two things.
Being too flexible about the idea of ‘good enough’
If you have a pessimistic idea about how much you can expect from a relationship, there are certain obvious pros. For one thing, you’ll be more likely to try out a wide range of dating prospects and may meet someone great entirely by accident. However, there are also some serious downsides to having an overly flexible notion of what would make a partner good enough. Most importantly, you stand a good chance of wasting your time on relationships where you feel misunderstood, bored, unsatisfied and unhappy. As a result, it makes sense to have at least some standards to which you hold prospective lovers.
You’re Accepting Too Little
Let’s call this out properly.
You’re giving people chances they haven’t earned.
You ignore red flags.
You justify bad behaviour.
You tell yourself “they’ll get better.”
They won’t.
You’re not being open-minded.
You’re tolerating things that will drain you later.
And the worst part?
You stay just long enough to waste your time… but not long enough to get what you want.
Or… You’re Expecting Too Much
This is the other extreme.
The checklist is long. Very long.
Chemistry. Success. Emotional intelligence. Looks. Banter. Depth. Stability. Excitement. Effort. No baggage. No flaws.
Basically… a unicorn.
And when someone decent shows up?
You find a reason to disqualify them.
Too quiet. Too nice. Not “sparky” enough.
You’re not having standards.
You’re chasing perfection.
And perfection doesn’t exist.
The 80% Rule (This Is Where You’re Getting It Wrong)
No one is going to meet 100% of your needs.
No one.
But if someone meets 80%?
That’s not “settling.” That’s pretty rare.
We’re talking about the big things:
- You’re attracted to them
- You feel safe and respected
- Your values align
- You want similar things long term
That’s your foundation.
The other 20%?
That’s where the differences live.
And the truth – most people don’t want to hear…
A little difference is a good thing.
It keeps things interesting.
It challenges you.
It stops the relationship from becoming flat and predictable.
Perfect on paper is usually boring in real life
The Real Problem
It’s not your options. It’s your decision-making.
You’re either:
- Choosing people who feel exciting… but are completely wrong for you
or - Rejecting people who are actually right… because they don’t match your fantasy
And that cycle?
That’s why you’re still here.
So What Should You Do Instead?
Get brutally honest about two things:
- Your non-negotiables
- What you can actually compromise on
Not everything matters equally.
Stop treating preferences like deal-breakers.
Because the longer you chase 100%… The longer you stay single.
Still Not Sure Who’s “Good Enough”?
This is where most people get stuck.
You don’t trust your own judgement anymore.
And that’s exactly why I built Patty AI Dating Coach.
It helps you figure out:
- Who’s worth your time
- What to say next
- When to walk away
- And when to lean in
No overthinking. No second-guessing.
Just clear, real-time decisions.
Meet Patty here: Patty Your Personalized dating coach
Final Word
Stop looking for perfect.
Start choosing aligned.
Because “good enough” done right?
That’s how you actually find something real.
