The story:  “I met this amazing guy a few weeks ago.  We had a fabulous date and learnt a lot about each other over dinner and got along exceptionally well.  After dinner, we headed out dancing to the wee hours of the morning. From all accounts, I was under the impression that we had  formed an amazing connection.  He was keen to catch up and take me out again and even confirmed my forthcoming availability.  Two weeks later – radio silence!  I can confirm my phone is working (verified by Vodafone), there are no mysterious missed calls or voicemails waiting.  After a week, I called him and it went to voicemail, left a message and didn’t hear back from him.  I don’t get it, he seemed so into me – why wouldn’t he call?”

This story has been told by women all over the world.  Questioning their girlfriends in the hope of an answer to ease the pain and suffering of the man that didn’t call!

So why didn’t he call?   Search no more, here is the reason why he didn’t call…

He’s married, has a girlfriend, ex called to get back together, he is still hung up on an ex, just not that into you, broke his toe, commitment issues, player, he didn’t like your lipstick, got a job transfer interstate, questioning your dance moves , lied about his age and didn’t want to tell you the truth  etc etc….

The truth is – it’s all speculation! There are many reasons why a man does not call, even when you think you have formed a connection.

Since you can’t speculate about someone you barely know, you can only talk about you and how you felt about the night.

Let’s look at:

  • What did you enjoy about him?
  • Has it now opened your eyes to a new possible type?
  • Did you feel you were able to be yourself with him?
  • On reflection, were there any red flags?
  • Was alcohol involved and did it make him funnier/cuter/older/younger than you thought?
  • What have you learned from it and what can you use from it the next time you meet someone?

If you are able to answer these questions, it may give you some insights to your next date and what you are looking for!

The one thing we do know – It’s time to delete his number, more importantly, don’t take it too personally and start seeking out your next date!