There you are, cruising along the relationship highway with the beautiful woman you’ve snagged, when suddenly, you grind back to second gear. She doesn’t seem as engaged with conversations, doesn’t find your jokes as funny, is not as accommodating or available, and is slower to return your calls.

Some of the reasons women lose interest are pretty straight forward and if you catch it quick enough it can be turned around—she’ll be engaged and interested once again!

Top 10 Reasons Why Women Lose Interest:

1. There is no fun anymore

Let’s face it, life does set in at some point post-honeymoon-phase. However, there should always be a sense of fun in life—especially with your partner. Excitement and laughter are essential elements of any great relationship. Keep things fun, make time for laughter, always continue to ‘date’ her and create memorable shared experiences.

2. Things become routine

Habitual routine can be the killer of dreams and certainly the killer of romance. Sure, get up, have a shower, make the bed, drive the same way to work—whatever you need to do to keep things simple in your day-to-day life. When it comes to relationships, though, some routine is great and necessary but you gotta keep it interesting. This should be a team effort with both of you throwing some sparkle into the ring and organising dates and surprises or entertainment for each other. Always leave room for the unimaginable. A little bit of ‘out of the ordinary’ goes a long way with women and speaks volumes about your commitment to the relationship. She’ll be boasting about her man in the lunchroom.

3. Going through the motions

If you are just going through the motions and working down your to-do-list—make the daily phone call, check; send the standard touch-base text, check—then give this one up, chump! Women know when they are just being ticked off of a to-do-list! Add some excitement to your daily text, make her feel special and wait to you see what comes back.

4. You keep her guessing where you are in the relationship

Women simply don’t want to guess where they stand in a relationship. If you are under the misconception this is the way to a woman’s heart and the way to keep her interested, think again. Any self-respecting woman will be waving farewell and looking for the man who doesn’t make her second guess her value.

5. You are over the top

There is a fine line between being interested and showing too much interest. If you are texting her four times a day without a response—STOP and put the phone down. Being too over the top can easily turn a woman off. It is great that you are communicating but work out what is going to work for her, every woman is different! If she is into four texts a day, great, carry on as you were. But common sense would indicate that if she is not responding it’s too much.

6. You are not your word

Saying something and not acting on it, making promises you can’t keep—or never intended to—are death to a relationship. Be honest and stand by it. She will respect you for it.

7. You’re annoying

Don’t annoy her! You know what you are doing. Stop it! Just stop it!

8. Your values are not aligned

If your values are not aligned, ultimately, everything will be a little bit tougher. If there are big gaps in your core values, she may just be thinking things through—will we make it or won’t we? Values are a great conversation topic to be had early in the dating phase. Make sure yours are aligned or can at the least be worked through.

9. The conversation is dull

You’re talking Greek Mythology and she is talking about real life. If you are struggling to find common conversational ground or you are non-supportive of what the other is saying this is a recipe for awkward silences! If you are a good conversationalist you should be able to talk on many levels. Find out what keeps you both stimulated. Remember, no one gets everything they need from one person. This is particularly true for women—our topics of conversation are certainly different with our girlfriends than with our partners.

10. She has met someone else

Certainly not the best of scenarios and not really one that you can change—regardless of what you do. If she has found someone else that floats her boat and has decided to let you go then you are better off setting her free.

If all else fails, and you are still stumped as to why things have changed, simply ask her the question. ‘Has something shifted for you, what do we need to do to get back on track?’ After all, she is the one who holds the true answer!