If you’ve been baffled by a woman’s mixed signals, you’re not the only one. However, mixed signals have a variety of important explanations, so learning more about the underlying beliefs and feelings can help you to interpret the complex messages you’re receiving.
Reason 1: She’s unsure of her feelings
Firstly, consider that the mixed signals you’ve noticed may indicate that the woman hasn’t made up her mind just yet. For example, a recent breakup may have left her wondering whether her interest in you is merely a sign of being on the rebound, she may be comparing you to others, or she might have some concerns about whether you’re a good match. If this is the reason for mixed signals in your case, a bit of time and some further dates should resolve the situation by helping her get to grips with how she really feels about you. After all, she’s still learning about you, and we can only start to figure out whether we fit well with another person after we get to know them on a more meaningful level.
Reason 2: She’s not sure what she’s looking for
Even if a woman is attracted to you and has learned enough to feel like she’s really getting to know you, she might send mixed signals because she’s not sure whether you’re offering what she’s looking for. Sometimes, the issue might be a mismatch in commitment levels (where one of you wants something casual and the other is more interested in a serious relationship), and at other times she may be trying to figure out whether you have compatible future goals or could be happy in the long term. Often, a frank discussion is the solution to this source of mixed signals.
Reason 3: She’s testing you
Some women (and men, for that matter) like to test their potential romantic partners by sending mixed signals. In many cases, the goal is to find out both whether you respond positively to signs of interest and whether you actively initiate pursuit when a lack of interest is implied. If this process goes on for too long, you are well within your rights to call it a day and start looking elsewhere. A relationship built on manipulations or tests is seldom a healthy one.
Reason 4: She’s afraid to put herself out there
Rejection can be a huge motivator when it comes to mixed signals. A confident display of interest one day can become avoidance the next day once she starts thinking about how painful it would be if you didn’t reciprocate her attraction. If you suspect she might have been hurt in the past or may just be a shy person more generally, it can be worth making your interest plain so that she doesn’t need to be the one to do so. Reserved women who send out mixed signals are often simply waiting for you to take a bigger step forward than they are willing to take.
Karina is a dating and romance consultant and the founder of Datelicious. She gets to share what she knows about love, and the best way to find it, every day. Fifteen years’ experience in the dating industry means that she has a wealth of trade secrets that she is only too willing to share with people who are on the dating rollercoaster or are building a relationship. She has a sixth sense when it comes to romance. Karina is well known for discovering hidden restaurants and bars which she adds to her impressive arsenal of dating & romantic venues. An avid traveller, you can often find her at the airport ready to indulge in her love of travel and taking every opportunity to uncover the best holiday spots for couples and singles, both on and off the map.